The self-care movement has gained mainstream popularity through social media where everyone from yogis to models share their coveted practices. With waves of information constantly flooding your feed it can be difficult to decide which tips are worth following. Self-care is much more than the glamorized spa days and edited “much needed day off” pictures often associated it. Finding the best ways for you to decompress and reset takes time and will probably change many times throughout your life. The most effective self-care routines celebrate healthy tasks both big and small, so ditch the idea of what self-care should like to look and embrace how it can work for you.

Introspection is Key

Creating a self-care routine is mostly trial and error in the early stages, but you can focus this testing by taking inventory of your emotions when you begin to feel a bit off. It’s much easier to step back and asses your feeling when you’re only a bit agitated opposed to being in the middle of a crisis. From a young age, people often tell you how your emotions should be processed, but that isn’t always the best option. The most important question you can ask yourself when you begin this analysis is what do I want right now? While this question may seem vague and impossible to answer, it kickstarts the process of finding a way to make you feel better. If this is too meta for you, try a checklist instead. Do I want to scream? No. Kick? Not really. Cry? Maybe. Block out all the light in the room and mope until tomorrow? Absolutely.

Self-Care Isn’t Always Pretty or Grand

As much as I would love to be someone who stress-bakes beautifully frosted cakes and gooey brownies, that’s just not reality. Society has created an acceptable picture of self-care that is basically limited to burning candles or inviting your spin class friends over to give you a pep-talk. While these may work miracles for some, it’s important to note that not every process has to be a picture-perfect moment. During the beginning of your journey to developing a self-care routine that works for you, try to avoid copying someone’s end result. This includes results made from Hollywood magic. Just because one girl in that one movie booked an unbelievably expensive last-minute trip to an exotic place to try and fill her void does not mean that you have to. (Credit card interest is real, and it will make you feel worse than whatever the initial problem was.) Your self-care routine could consist of a short walk up the block and a tour through deli’s cheese department. It’s the little things that matter.

 

            Finally, it’s important to note that this doesn’t have to be a one-woman journey. Creating a self-care routine that works for you is a part of maintaining healthy a relationship with yourself and others. What does your self-care routine consist of? Share it with us on Instagram @wearemamizi for a chance to be featured.